I want a man who takes INITIATIVE.
Yes, men of my generation – I know this is an unfamiliar word for you. I offer my assistance:
Initiative : a first step or move that leads the way; readiness to embark on bold new ventures; the first of a series of actions.
You may be scratching your head and thinking, “huh?”
Allow me to give you some real life examples to familiarize you with this process of being an initiator.
Example #1: You are interested in a girl and you’re hanging out at the same place.
Non-Initiative action: Do NOTHING. Act normal and refer to her as “One of the dudes.”
Initiative action: Talk to the girl and express interest in what she has to say. Respond to her conversation.
Example #2: You want to ask the girl out.
Non-Initiative action: Only send her a text message and hope for the best.
Initiative action: Call her or ask her in person!
Example #3: You’ve established that you like the girl and want her to be “your boo.”
Non-Initiative action: Just keep casually hanging out with her and hope she asks you to DTR (Define the Relationship) wherein you are now FORCED to be an initiator, which is really an oxymoron!
Initiative action: Tell you you think she’s great and would like to exclusively date her.
See fellas, this isn’t a hard game! With a little help you’ll be alright. You can do it – and, if you can’t it’s ok, because you won’t have anything to worry about because we’ll be with the guy who actually pursues us!
Tuesday, January 29th, 2008, 3:38 pm | 
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January 29, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Something on your mind?
January 29, 2008 at 9:18 pm
Upon reading that phrase, that repulsive slang (repulsive to me and repulsive to you are two totally different things, and I’m okay with that), the corner of my lip snarled.
If any man EVER referred to me as “his boo”, I’d vomit. Projectile. Toward him.
Sidenote: Please don’t ever suggest that Roger do such a hideous thing.
January 29, 2008 at 8:36 pm
No. Yes. Ugh…I’m just taking the initiative to point out a problem. : )
January 29, 2008 at 9:52 pm
That was so stinkin’ funny! Are you venting about anyone in particular?! hmmmm?
No worries my sister…yo man is out there!
January 29, 2008 at 10:03 pm
I am not venting about anyone in particular…seriously. This is a quality of my ideal man, meaning I wouldn’t have to tell him this. So any man that needs to learn this is NOT the man for me. And I feel soooo comfortable about saying that. I wouldn’t waste my time trying to persuade some dude to take initative with me, it would defeat the purpose of me wanting him to take action. No way…uh uhhh. Never!
January 30, 2008 at 10:36 pm
Hilarious!
Amen, sister!